As you can tell by the title of this post I am writing about being young and married. Now I am going to be completely real with you and give you my expectations and my experience being young and married. So... where should I begin?

I'll start by saying a little about my self. I am currently 21 But I got married as soon as I turned 20. I was serving in the Military where I met my husband serving in the same unit as me in South Korea. Never did I expect to marry so young let alone a soldier. I had always had my doubts on marrying a soldier; the distance, the hardship, the stress, and the worrying every time he isn't home. But I had a lot of faith that things would go smoothly.

Unfortunately my expectations were completely wrong. We ended up being separated by duty stations. I ended up in Texas. While my husband ended up at Washington. Heartbroken and afraid of not knowing where we would end up. I let the time do it's talking and my faith in the lord to bring us together for good. Through Financial problems and being told we made a mistake by many soldiers. I did not let anyone change my mindset. Proud and Determined, I was happy to know that when I get back home I would have someone to talk to no matter how my day went. Anxiety attack after anxiety attack I finally had to make a tough decision for my future and my career. I would end up having surgery to stay in the army and would remain in Texas, Or refuse to have surgery and be involuntarily discharged from the army. Meaning I would get to go be with my husband in Washington

We we're already going through financial troubles. I was so afraid that if I made the wrong decision I would regret it. Getting out of the army meant I would be with my best friend again but also meant our financial problems would worsen. But staying in would leave me lonely and more stressed than I should be, but also keep me financially stable. The decision was not just for me to decide. It was also my husbands decision, since this would affect our income. I chose to get out of the army and go home for good. I received negative backlash from Officers, and NCO's for my decision. At the end of the day I am my own person and the army was not my life just my career.

Long story short. Things have gotten somewhat better since I left the military. But we still have obstacles to face as a married couple. Our faith in god has gotten us through some of the most difficult decisions in life. Marriage has taught us that no matter what decision you make the person you vowed to be with til death do you part will always be by your side. He keeps me grounded and sane. My anxiety has become less noticeable and my stress levels have lowered. We may be complete opposites but I enjoy his hobbies and he's learned to enjoy mine. Though we are young and may not have everything together, One day we will look back and realize it was all worth it.

Many things We hear as a married couple is; why don't you guys have kids? when are you going to have kids? when are you going to have a wedding? and many more questions that we've felt the need to answer every time were asked. The answer stays the same. "In due time. things will happen when they happen. As a young couple we can not afford an extravagant wedding. But god blesses those who wait so we will see what god has in store for us.

My advice to young couples, married couples, and couples in the army: Remain positive and happy no matter what life throws at you. Whether it be a deployment, financial problem, or the fact that you are young and the expectations people have of you. Marriage is work and its hard but if you do it with a good mindset, and a loving heart for the person you are marrying things will go the way they are supposed to go. Get through every obstacle one day at a time. If you are religious, pray every time is gets hard. God is always on your side when you need him. I am a firm believer that soul mates do exist. I also believe that everything happens for a reason and whatever is a setback is preparing you for a comeback. Keep the spark alive and enjoy your marriage.